My head tries to sell me a lot of lies and in the past I’ve struggled not buying in to them. It’d leave me feeling alone, inadequate and unhappy. My life became a never ending waiting game of ‘when’. You’ll be happy ‘when’ you get that job/car/thing/approval… I was living my life waiting for the ‘when’ to be happy. Increasingly I felt more isolated and disconnected from those around me. As a man I thought I would be seen as less capable to succeed in life if I said I was struggling so I stayed silent. The longer I stayed silent the larger the fear and anxiety grew. I had to reach breaking point before asking for help. This photo was taken a few years back when I was seemingly “doing great” but in reality I was at my lowest.
The voicing of your struggle or pain isn’t a lack of strength. You grow through adversity and through the continuous voicing of your adversity, not remaining silent about it.
I am voicing my human adversity in hope that it will help others do the same.
If you can relate to any of this know you’re not alone, I’m there with you. You don’t have to wait until breaking point like I did for things to change.
As men we’re taught to deny vital human capacities that we need to live life but we don’t have to continue to let outdated ideas control the rest of our lives. I’ve created a platform to help us move beyond the limiting ideas of what it means to be a man where we can all be more human. Please follow @humenorg