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“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. ”

– Desmond Tutu

MISSION

Changing the face of what it means to be a man.

HUMEN is leading the movement to improve and maintain men's mental health through The HUMEN Space. Anonymous, preventative and non-clinical spaces for men to talk, listen and connect on a regular basis. 75% of all UK suicides are male. The right to talk should never be a privilege.

It's not enough to just say men need to talk so we're providing spaces to do so. Moving beyond the false and limiting notions of what it means to be a man, or a lad, or a bloke.

Where inner health is valued as much as outer, creating a better world for men and women.

We’re lighting a better way forward and together can change the course of a generation.

You are human. I am human. We are HUMEN.

My Story

“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.” — Abraham Maslow

We really need to stop just pulling people out of the river. It’s long overdue to go upstream and help to prevent people from falling in. Growing up anger was the answer to all my problems. When I was younger, the only tool I thought I had was a hammer. Quickly, without meaning or wanting to, I trashed everything in front of me.

I arrived at a lonely place, where I felt like I didn’t want to live but at the same time I didn’t want to die.

I tried everything to shake the emptiness. I found destructive ways to cope because I didn't know any other way. Most days felt like an exercise in survival. I took the anger out on myself, and did a pretty good job of beating myself up but also did a great job of pretending life was fine.

After resisting for so long when I eventually asked for help I was told I could only continue to receive it if I was suicidal. We shouldn't be waiting for people to reach breaking point before something is done. In a weird way it gave me a determination to get better and create what I wished was available. That's when the idea for HUMEN came.

Anonymous and non-clinical spaces for guys to talk on a regular basis. “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” Benjamin Franklin. I realised I was not the problem, being a man is not the problem. Only these limiting scripts, prescribing what it means to be a man, which damage men and belittle women, are a problem.

From as young as age six, boys trade innate empathy and compassion for phoney toughness. As the years pass, our social vocabulary, our emotional toolkit, is often reduced to but one choice. The hammer.

HUMEN is here to change that. I want to provide as many men as possible with a better way, an accessible way to improve and maintain their mental health. HUMEN is what I wish had existed years ago, it's what I hope will help men today and keep helping more and more men in years to come.

River Hawkins, Founder